Friday, June 27, 2025

Memoir Notes



                 

I have finally finished the first draft of my memoir, stories about our family as our children grew up. I’m now working on the second draft (Who knows how many there will be?) and I am having a lovely time.

 

I’ve been working on this book for more than four years. I had so many pages of notes and memories to look through and choose from. Here are a few nuggets I found. Maybe some made it in to the book but surely not all.

 

November 1, 2007:  This morning I went in to hug Benjie good-by in bed, and I accidentally bopped him in the face.  I leaned down by him and asked, "Can I tell you a secret?" 

He smiled and said calmly, "You hit me in the face."  "I did.  that's the secret -- I hit you in the face."  The secret is actually always, of course,

"I love you."

 

What is Benjie doing?  Oh!  There goes a loud crash of thunder, and Benjie goes jumping down the stairs, out onto the porch, saying “Cool!”  I’m cowering in my room, wondering where this weird kid came from.

 

September, 2005: Benjie and Kathy were playing space craft the other day.  Benjie asked Kathy if she wanted to play space poker.  Before she could object, he said, “It’s not gambling.  Instead of money, they use pancakes.”

 

August 18, 2003:  Murray tonight told everyone about a kid he heard about on TV who got into a shopping cart, road out of an alley into a roadway, and was hit by a car.  Sarah said, “Oh my goodness.  What color was the car?”

 

Last week, Benjamin was talking to Rebecca about how she should learn Grade II Braille (which has a lot of abbreviations, and so is more efficient.).  Benjie told Rebecca, “You should work with Mrs. D. (his Braille teacher last year).  Or, you could work with Mommy – she’s a good teacher.”

 

 April 21, 2003: Tonight, talking about “Fear Factor,” (a TV show,) Caleb said, “I could probably eat slugs.”  Kathy asked, “But, why would you want to?”  “Because slugs are cool.  They taste like chicken.”

 

May 10, 2003:  Rebecca and Caleb both have school concert performances next Thursday, in different places at different times.  Murray asked Ping-Hwei what we should do about the situation, curious what solution he might come up with, asking, “Ping-Hwei, should we go to Caleb’s concert, or Rebecca’s?”  Ping-Hwei said,” Rebecca’s.”  Murray asked, “But won’t Caleb be sad if we don’t go to his concert?” and Ping-Hwei said, “I will give Caleb a hug.”

 

July 7, 2003:  Today Rebecca played in her second softball game of her first season.  In her first game, she didn’t get on base.  Today, first time up, she hit it toward third base and got to first safely, and the next few players knocked her around, until she made it home.  She sat on the bench next to a friend, and Murray heard her say, “That was my first hit ever.  I’m so proud of myself.”

 

September 28, 2003:  Tonight at dinner, Sarah spilled something on her sleeve, and then said, "I hate having a wet sleeve.  There's nothing I hate worse than having a wet

sleeve …. except … when people are talking and they need to clear their throats and they don't clear their throats, I just want to say, CLEAR YOUR THROAT!"

 

December 19, 2003:  At 5:30 this morning, Sunday, Murray was hurriedly preparing a salad for a potluck at church.  Ping-Hwei saw him doing this, and said, "I told Baba to make the salad yesterday, but he didn't listen."

 

Monday, October 10, 2005:  Yesterday we were sitting fairly quietly at breakfast, when Benjamin spoke up and said, “I haven’t puked in four or five years.”

 

July 11, 2006:  Recently Kathy told Rebecca about a Bible verse she had read from Psalm 119 that said the writer praised God seven times a day for His ordinances.  Rebecca said, “Only seven?”

 

July 31, 2006:  Recently, when Caleb was coming home from the Christ in Youth conference in Pennsylvania, he called at about 6 in the morning to say they were on their way.  Murray asked him, “Where are you?”  Caleb responded calmly, “On the side of the road.  The bus turned over.”  “Really?” Murray said, believing him. “No,” Caleb replied. (So proud of Caleb.) 

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