Friday, March 10, 2017

St. Baldrick's Day



On March 17, 2003, Murray called me at work and asked if it was okay if he got Benjamin’s head shaved. Benjamin was six.

At A.J. Rocco’s, a club in downtown Cleveland, they were having a fundraiser for children’s cancer research. They would shave your head on St. Baldrick’s Day. Murray saw it on the news that morning and wanted to take Benjamin and go.

I said “sure.” Why not?

Murray said when they got there, the ladies checking them in repeatedly asked, “Are you sure this is okay with his mother?”

This March 17 will be Benjamin’s fifteenth time to shave his head for children’s cancer research. I always love rubbing his head afterward. I wonder if he’ll let me do that this year.

Rebecca did something very brave when she was thirteen. She shaved her head; she was in the seventh grade.
She raised quite a bit of money that year, from people at school, from people at A.J. Rocco’s. Rebecca said her legs were a little shaky when she stood after her hair was gone. Another lady there who was also having her head shaved put her arm around Rebecca and said, “There’s no shame when you’re doing it for children’s cancer.”

More and more people have joined each year, but Benjamin said he’s one of only two or three who have stuck with it since that first time at A.J. Rocco’s.

We believe this is an excellent fundraiser, and we’re proud of Benjamin. Check out St. Baldrick’s at the website listed below.

https://www.stbaldricks.org/participants/mypage/896586/2017

Friday, March 3, 2017

Healing



I’m writing short stories to practice third person instead of first.

HEALING

The clock showed 2:37 a.m. when she picked up the phone.
“Marsha, Mom is dying.”
For the first time in five years, Dan’s voice caused Marsha’s heart to twitch. “Is she home?”
“Yes.” Dan tried to control the pain in his voice. “She wants to see you. Can you come? Bring the kids?”
Marsha turned to the back seat as she fastened her seatbelt. Jenny was already asleep again, but David’s eyes were wide open.
“Dad said Grandma is going to die?” He gulped. “Right away?”
How could a twelve-year-old look so weary with life?
“Yes, honey. The doctor said it will probably be today.”
Dan took the kids to see his mother often. They knew she had cancer and that she’d asked for the treatments to be stopped. Still, this would devastate them.
Why, God? Why does such a great lady have to die too early? She loves you. She trusts you. And her family still needs her. Marsha’s breath caught. I still need her. Please, God …
Marsha couldn’t force any more prayer. David had no further questions. The rest of the trip to Cindy’s house stayed silent.
Marsha stopped the car. “Guys, wake up. We’re here.”
She wrapped an arm around both kids as they walked to the front steps. Dan stood inside the open door.
“Hey, guys. Come on in.”
Jenny looked up at her dad. “Daddy, why are we up so early?”
He pulled her into a hug. “Come on, baby. Grandma wants to see you.” Dan glanced at David. “Hi, son.”
“Hi.” David lowered his head from his father’s gaze.
Dan looked to Marsha. “Thank you.”
Marsha nodded. Her throat couldn’t open enough for words right then.
“The Hospice nurse is sitting with Mom right now. She’ll leave so we can have privacy.” Dan gave a light knock on the bedroom door, then led them inside.
Marsha noticed a slight, gray-haired lady slip out of the room, but her eyes were drawn magnetically to the bed.
When she and Dan divorced five years earlier, he asked her not to tell his mom. She’d just learned of her cancer.
“We don’t need to give her another reason for sorrow.”
Marsha agreed, not because she wanted to please Dan, but because Cindy was her friend. Her sister. Her mother.
Since then, she’d continued to visit Cindy with the kids. It’s only been a month or so. She is … she’s so different.
Cindy lay asleep, her hands curled beside her face. She’s shrunk so much. She’s … dying.
David moved to the side of the bed. He held out his hand, pulled it back, then laid it on his grandmother’s shoulder.
Jenny pressed close to Marsha. “Mama?” she whispered.
Marsha wrapped her arms around her child. “It’s okay, honey. Do you want to hold Grandma’s hand?”
Jenny gave a sharp shake of her head.
Dan knelt in front of Jenny and cupped her cheek. “That’s okay, sweetie. If you’d like, I’ll take you to the kitchen and get you a drink.”
Jenny nodded. Marsha felt her daughter’s tears drip onto her hands. She bent to kiss Jenny’s head. “Go with Daddy, sweetie.”
Jenny’s just eight. Should we have done this to her?
“Dave, you want to come with us?”
Dan wrapped an arm around David’s shoulders. David stiffened, then sank against his dad. Marsha watched the three of them walk out of the room. That looked like a comforting group to be a part of.
Five years ago, Dan met Judy on a business trip. For a short time, he turned his back on Marsha and his children.
It didn’t last long, but when he came to Marsha to beg forgiveness, her heart shriveled and lost any spark of life for him.
Marsha bit her lip and turned back to the bed. She sat on the floor and rested her head on the pillow next to Cindy.
“You were my Mama.”
Cindy had been her piano teacher, her confidante, her encourager when Marsha’s family showed her little support.
“You loved me, and listened to me. You helped me believe Jesus loved me.”
And when Cindy invited Marsha into her home, Marsha met Cindy’s son. A man with laughing eyes and a warm hug.
She folded her hands around the tiny, bony hands which once were so strong.
“I’m sorry if I disappointed you. I love you so.”
Dan sat down on the floor next to her. “Jenny’s already asleep on the couch. David found a book to look at, but he’ll probably be out soon.”
Marsha turned to look at the man who, for so many years, had been her best friend. More recently, this had been a stranger’s face, but today?
She had an overwhelming need to touch him.
She held out her hand, then stopped.
Dan enclosed her hand in his. His eyes held such sadness.
Marsha leaned to Dan, and his arms came around her. It felt like home.
“Thank you. Thank you … for letting me see this.”
Cindy.
Marsha stayed in Dan’s arms, but turned back to face her friend. Cindy’s eyes were open, sunken, but smiling.
“Marsha.” Her voice was low and breathy, but still kind. “You are my daughter. You don’t disappoint me. But … please remember … forgiveness is healing, and mostly for the one who forgives.”
Marsha gasped. Did Cindy know? How could she not know?
Dan laid a gentle hand on his mother’s cheek. He opened his mouth, but no words came.
Cindy nestled her cheek against his hand. “I love you, precious Danny.”
Her eyes closed again and she smiled. Her breaths were slow and calm.
Dan stood and turned to Marsha. “I should get the nurse. In case … in case she needs medicine.”
His lips trembled, and his hands shook.
Marsha moved back into his arms and wrapped hers around him.
Who was comforting who? It didn’t matter. Their strength mingled to hold each other upright.

Friday, February 24, 2017

Make Your Birthday Fun



Yesterday was my birthday.

Early in our marriage, Murray taught me a great lesson. He tells people he meets on February 11, “It’s my birthday today.”

Why not? Most people smile and tell him happy birthday. It makes him feel good and adds to his special day.

For a week or so, I’ve been reminding my family of this. I don’t want them to miss out on the joy of making me happy.

On Sunday I told Benjamin, “Don’t forget, my birthday is Thursday.”

He was home for the President’s Day weekend, so he said, “I know. I thought I’d take you out to eat tomorrow.” We decided to go out for ice cream. Yummy!

What an excellent example he set for the rest of the family.

My friend Laura asked me on Sunday if I’d like to have our lady’s Bible study on Thursday. I told her sure. “But it’s my birthday Thursday, so you guys will have to sing happy birthday to me.”

God bless them—they did. And they brought me a cake. And presents.

I called my mom early yesterday so she could have the privilege of blessing me. She knows me. She said she almost answered the phone by saying “Happy Birthday,” but decided not to take the chance.

For Valentine’s Day I made Murray a chocolate bar in one of the molds we have with braille messages. I had enough chocolate for two bars, so I made a happy birthday one for myself. I took it out early yesterday morning and offered some to everybody as they came downstairs.

So I told everybody I could yesterday, “Have a good day for my birthday.”

I received sweet and funny cards, calls, emails, lots of Facebook messages.

The verse of the day from bible.com?

For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.” Zephaniah 3:17

So much fun!

Murray and the kids were very good to me. Rebecca and Ping-Hwei sent me texts. Caleb called. Sarah sang to me first thing in the morning.

We had Five Guys burgers and rocky road ice cream for dinner, just like I asked. I should point out that they are always good to me, even without me asking.

They gave me many fun gifts, quite a few edible. My favorite?

Ping-Hwei gave me two rolls of wrapping paper to use to wrap presents for other people’s birthdays.

Guess whose birthday is next in our house? He is a smart young man.

Here’s a good reason for spreading the news of your birthday. I was a lot nicer to everybody else yesterday, too, since I was having a good day.

One day a year (why not?) make it all about you. Be sure to tell me when it’s your birthday. I’ll definitely give you happy wishes.

Another good lesson. A couple years ago, we were with our daughter Rebecca right around her birthday. We needed to make a decision about something, and she said, “It’s my birthday week. It’s my choice.”

So, even though my birthday was yesterday, if anybody wants to send me happy wishes still…